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Tuesday, August 15, 2017

A Lesbian Film with an Actual Lesbian Character!

Recently Mrs Dirt and I were discussing the serious lack of Lesbian films there are as well as the lack of REAL Lesbian characters in films that claim to be Lesbian. I mentioned the film Losing Chase as an interesting film featuring a real Lesbian character (played by Helen Mirren) which Mrs Dirt had never seen.

After watching the film from an online link, (I hadnt seen the film since it came out in the 90's myself), I looked up the film's writer (KNOWING only a Dyke could have written it), and BINGO, I was correct! A Lesbian (Anne Meredith) DID write Losing Chase! In seeking information about Anne Meredith I came across this VERY interesting article/interview that unknowingly speaks volumes about Lesbian biology/thought process.

Anne Meredith had this to say about her Lesbian childhood:
"I had so many possibilities. The only thing that got in my way was the fact that I was a girl. But I was so hard-headed that I didn't realize that was a liability, so it didn't become one. 
"But if I had chosen to be a professional athlete -- if I had been able to play Little League, I probably would have wanted to be a baseball player. But I wasn't allowed to play. 
"I painted, and played music, and was a ski racer, and played tennis on the junior circuit -- there were so many things I loved doing, and was good at doing. It wasn't problematic for me, but I think my parents thought it was.
"I felt like Superman, which is probably what has allowed me to be here with such a happy heart, because Hollywood can bruise sensitive people quickly. It's not that I'm not sensitive; I'm incredibly sensitive, but I feel like I'm able to leap tall buildings and come down on the other side and land on my feet somehow."
Like nearly all Dykes, she was blind to Heterosexual roles (for females) because she wasnt a Heterosexual! Allowing her to excel in areas normally occupied for males. Given this interview took place while Anne was still in her 20's, she not surprisingly assumes Het females didnt grow likewise because they werent taught to:
That's one thing where girls really do themselves in. I blame their mothers for that. I think for the most part, their fathers are clueless about raising daughters. 
"And there are studies about when girls get to school, that first grade girls are as good or better at science and math than boys are, and as time goes by, it reverses. And it's only because the teachers, and most of them happen to be women, are calling on the boys and excluding the girls. 
"So I really hold women accountable for not empowering their own daughters, and for empowering their sons over their daughters. I speak to that a lot in my work as a writer. It makes me mad, because I've seen it around me so much."
Anne doesnt understand how she escaped these perceived messages (patriarchy?) told/taught to Girls. She even mentions how Girls can do well in certain school subjects but at around puberty Boys surpass them. Anne kinda gets the biology at work here, but not quite.
"But pretty much as a child, I felt genderless, and that's probably why. I was a tomboy, and I was able to beat up any boy who picked on my best friend or whatever, and I had a lot of power on the playground
"It wasn't brute strength, and I wasn't bigger than they were, it was just determination, and I had a real strong sense of what's right and what's wrong, and how to behave and how not to behave. 
"The gym teacher always picked me and another boy to select others for the kickball teams. That's a rotten position to be in, because you want to pick the teams that will win, but you don't want to exclude anyone. 
"I always picked the kid with the glasses that were like ten inches thick, and the girl who couldn't run because she'd been in an accident when she was a kid, and like that.
"And if I heard any other kids mocking any of them, I just took off like a banshee and beat the crap out of them. I was constantly being sent home from school. But I was in the gifted kids program, too, and that was good."
This truly is almost a blueprint for the life of most Lesbian childen! We know we arent Girls and we know (we arent Boys) while we may have more in common with Boys than Girls, our sense of right and wrong trumps power, which usually lures Boys.
"I was never treated like a little girl, because I never behaved like a little girl, I always behaved like a boy. And it did serve me well. A lot of people were trying to force me into being a girl, it's not like everyone was very tolerant in the kind of town where I grew up. But somehow I was born this way, and so there's really nothing for me to do about it"..."I don't even identify myself as female, exactly. Or male."
Lesbian dont behave like Girls or Boys, because we're Lesbians! Unfortunately for Lesbian children we have no role models or Lesbian leaders with which to identify with, so like the young Anne, we compare ourselves to Boys. And while the Boy box may be less uncomfy than the Girl box, it isnt until we realize we're Lesbians we find as Lesbians we do not need or want a box. But the path Anne Meredith describes is a path most Dykes have traveled.
"I mean, I know I am a woman, and there's no doubt about it, but all of this stuff that society heaps on girls and women about what it means to be a woman -- I just never bought any of it, so I really don't know how to define myself or where I stand, except I know it's on the fringe. I'm happy there. Totally." 
"I wouldn't be anywhere else. I'd kill myself. That's what 'Losing Chase' is about. It's about me imagining, at twenty, what would I be like if I were forty and I had made some stupid decision to marry some banker guy and live out on the Cape with him? Well, first of all, I'd have a nervous breakdown. Second, I'd be really bitter. I'd be incredibly cynical, I'd take it out on everyone around me. "It was so easy, I wrote that in like two days. It was stream of consciousness, and like a session with a therapist.
Again this is something nearly ALL Lesbians can identify with, that feeling of thinking how is it that I'm a Girl/Woman yet I do not at all function the way they do or are treated the way Girls/Women are? Not yet realizing we arent Girls/Women, but LESBIANS! I remember distinctly as a small child observing Women around me or on TV and thinking, I'll kill myself before I ever end up like them! And it is that precise fear of becoming a Het Woman that creates the Dysphoria Lesbians are so well acquainted with.

Anne ends the interview with this message to future Girls, but its clear from the message, she means Lesbian children:
"Like when they put the boot on your throat, just grab them by the ankle and kick them off. And then beat the crap out of them, dust yourself off and go about your business."
If you've never seen Losing Chase, it is without doubt one of the FEW films out there with a real relatable Lesbian character, even if Chase's choices werent ones we would have made. How Chase functions, IS Lesbian and thats something ALL Lesbians can relate to!



Thursday, August 10, 2017

Dykes are DONE Choking on Shit-Biology Not Only Matters-Its Life or Death

(Het) Women have historically used Lesbians themselves or Lesbian as an idea for their own selfish (Het) privileged reasons. Reasons ALWAYS having something to do with Men! For example: escaping men, turning men on, hating men, bemoaning men, making men jealous, seeking equal rights, even shaming Lesbians for acting like men or not being man enough! All leaving Lesbians DANGEROUSLY Hetsplained to society at large and worse, to each other!

The "lesbian" we desperately sought when young/afraid and starving for from books/films or tv didnt walk/talk or resemble anything we knew ourselves to be. That "lesbian" didnt seem all that different from the (Het) Women we already knew from family/friends/society except she dated similar Women instead of Men. It was as if the ONLY thing that defined her as "lesbian" was dating Women! We knew before we could speak a proper sentence that we were different from Girls, different/alien/alienated. And that difference at age 2 or 3 had NOTHING to do with fucking females!

So if the "lesbians" in our books and in our films and on our tv shows wasnt us, who were we? Who are we? This Hetsplained "lesbian" that (Het) Women perpetuate increased/increases the disconnect Lesbians feel, the incongruousness pushing Lesbians to transition and the confusion already surrounding Lesbian children in a Heterocentric world! Defining Lesbian in terms of nature (Biology) and not (nurture/lack there of-society) does not mean Lesbians hate (Het) females, but it does mean putting Lesbians first as Lesbians!

Lesbian children do NOT think/process like Girls, because we are NOT Heterosexual! Period! Our experiences ARE the experiences ONLY Lesbians can feel, can fully understand and fully appreciate as Lesbians! The Hetspalined/Hetcreated "lesbian" exists ONLY in the minds of Heterosexuals. Two (Het) Women may spend 50 years in a relationship (including sex), but EVERYTHING that exists between those two (Het) Women remains Heterosexual.

If two White people for whatever reason claimed to be Black and were in a relationship, we wouldnt use their relationship/relationship experiences for a Black relationship guide! Nor would we find it offensive for Blacks/Black couples to define their culture/experiences as different from that of the faux Black couple. In fact the Whites trying to usurp Black culture would be given hell and should be! But Lesbians insisting on our BIOLOGICAL/cultural differences from (Het) Women, and the most hateful/abusive/ignominious and Lezbophobic shit is slung at Lesbians by (Het) Women!

We routinely see (Het) Women/Feminists (rightfully so) get pissed off/outraged when there is a headline saying something like "Woman rapes and murders wife" and the woman is in fact a Trans Male! (Het) Women/RadFems/Feminists are upset and these inaccuracies/lies have only been a part of the most recent times. Lesbians are dealing with T H O U S A N D S of fucking years of Hetsplanations! And Hetsplanations thanks to Radical Feminism/Feminism that for the last two and a half decades have displaced biology/unsexed sex and pressured Lesbians into Heterocentric/Heterosocio transition at the very expense of Lesbian lives!

These same (Het) Women freely call us gender non conforming or gender in-congruent because Dykes fail to meet Heterocentric standards of male/female, not because those things are true! LESBIAN IS ITS OWN NORMAL! A Normal that doesnt mimic Heterosexuals (dont fucking flatter yourselves!)!! Lesbians are BIOLOGICALLY created and LESBIANS do function/process information according to our Lesbian brains. Heterosexuals may not like it, Heterosexuals may not believe it but Homosexuals do not fucking care! The Heterosexual world hates us, we know this! What Heterosexuals hate is Lesbians (in this case) holding up a fucking mirror so (Het) Women are forced to take a good long look at their Dyke hatred! We also need young Dykes to know Hets in only VERY tiny instances are truly in our corner. Waving a fucking rainbow flag which no longer holds any Homosexual meaning doesnt ensure solidarity with Dykes.

Flesh, bone and blood Lesbians are done with the Hetsplained self serving R A P E of our name, our lives, our love and our culture! Our Lesbian youths need Lesbian Truth and Trust NOW more than ever and the Hetsplained academicy feministy queery inclusive bullshit can be shoveled down your own throats, Dykes are done choking on YOUR shit!



Tuesday, August 1, 2017

Gay Star News Takes Homophobic Mary Beard's Side Against LESBIANS

"God knows there’s already enough homophobia in the world. You don’t want to be adding to it."

This morning when Mrs Dirt notified me that the attacks on Lesbianism/Lesbians by Homophobe
Mary Beard, who flatly stated Homosexuality is NOT biological, (meaning it can only be a whim/choice/something fun to do when you're bored on a Friday night and you havent a date) had been taken up by Gay Star News's own David Hudson in FAVOUR of Mary Beard's HOMOPHOBIC position, the first thing I said was "if a gay or lesbian wrote the article they've got some serious fucking internalized homophobia"! The quote/link that begins this post is from the same David Hudson of Gay Star News, regarding an article he wrote only last year on....wait for it.....wait for it....wait for it....HIS OWN INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA! BINGO!

David began his article on Internalized Homophobia with the question "At what age does one’s internalized homophobia fade away?" and answers himself by saying: 
Clearly THIS morning David Hudson of the Gay Star News has NO problem being a totally fucking HOMOPHOBE! Or maybe being a HOMOPHOBIC dick to Lesbians doesnt count? Hmmm....David continues:
"if someone invented a pill to wipe away internalized homophobia, I’d be the first in line for a prescription.
Why is that internalized anxiety still there? Maybe because homophobia is still there. And because we can still perhaps never predict how someone might react to finding out the fact that one is gay. Because we place undue importance on their opinion of us, we want to control how they find out’ disclosing when we think it’s safe."
Well David, clearly your HOMOPHOBIA is still firmly intact and clearly you still place MORE IMPORTANCE on the opinions of a HOMOPHOBIC History instructor than actual living and breathing Lesbians! That David, makes you a HOMOPHOBE! That not a single Lesbian was contacted by you for our say, that we were quoted out of context, that Miss Mary was quoted to suit hers/your HOMOPHOBIC bent, makes you a shit writer!

  • David Hudson of the Gay Star News: Did you even bother to read my post or did you simply lazily link it for the sole purpose of giving me credit? 
  • David Hudson of the Gay Star News: Did you go back through Miss Mary's Twitter timeline and see the barrage of homophobic attacks/slander that SHE said/orchestrated?
  • David Hudson of the Gay Star News: Did you bother to contact any of the Lesbians involved to get their Lesbian side of the Homophobia?
  • David Hudson of the Gay Star News: Did you even bother to notice it was more than one Lesbian involved? 
  • David Hudson of the Gay Star News: Did you bother to vet the "lesbians" whose Tweets you cited? If you did David, then it isnt just your Internalized Homophobia thats faulty, your Gaydar is too!
  • David Hudson of the Gay Star News: Do you agree with Mary Beard and her onslaught of Homophobic Het/queer followers that Homosexuality is merely a choice and has no bearing on anything outside of who you want to fuck at any given time?
  • David Hudson of the Gay Star News: Do you agree with Mary Beard that even talking about Homosexuality is "crass"? Which btw David Hudson of the Gay Star News, is what this whole homophobic shit storm directed by Mary Beard was designed to cover up. 
  • David Hudson of the Gay Star News: I Tweeted twice today to you David Hudson of the Gay Star News, asking who it was exactly that said Mary Beard was "old" and have yet to receive a single answer from you or Miss Mary. As not a single Lesbian involved (as was noted in my original post) brought up age/agism nor would we given we're all of similar ages and age wasnt the issue, Mary Beard's Less-than-Intelligent-Homosexual-Design was! So Then David Hudson of the Gay Star News is it then honest to say it is ONLY Mary Beard herself who told you that "she objects to people assuming she is ‘an old het lady’"? Based on YOUR quotes by HER, without a SINGLE QUOTE from myself or ANY other Lesbian referring to her as "old"! 
So legally is Mary Beard the one to be held libelous for slanting YOUR articles readership to believe I (a 50 year Lesbian) called a slightly older Women, OLD?
Are you David Hudson of the Gay Star News to be held libelous for slanting YOUR articles readership to believe I (a 50 year Lesbian) called a slightly older Women, OLD?
Or David Hudson of the Gay Star News, should the Gay Star News be held libelous for slanting YOUR articles readership to believe I (a 50 year Lesbian) called a slightly older Women, OLD?
Whether you accidentally stepped into this shit storm David Hudson of the Gay Star News, was willfully led or paid as the case may be, either way David Hudson of the Gay Star News, you need to fucking remember what you wrote last year: "God knows there’s already enough homophobia in the world. You don’t want to be adding to it."

And as of today David Hudson of the Gay Star News, you just added to the over flowing Homophobia Gays and Lesbians are still fucking daily drowning in. Feel better about yourself?



Edit to add:
This is my Mrs Dirt's personal message to Gay Star News:
 I wanted to tell you that David Hudson's story about Mary Beard is biased, unfair, unbalanced, and completely wrong. He never even researched the history of the Twitter wars involved in this situation; he never contacted ANY of the lesbians who disagreed with Mary Beard; he never presented our side of the issue; he quoted tweets that were defamatory to us; and he implied that we (lesbians) said Mary Beard was old which is completely untrue. If he was going to do a story, the only fair and balanced way would be to present BOTH sides of that story which he did not. Also, how reprehensible to take the side AGAINST lesbians. Shame on him for writing it and shame on you for publishing it. Stories like that reveal the utter lack of ethics in reporting now, and also, sadly, the lack of solidarity between gay men and lesbians. Thank you for listening. This whole debacle has been incredibly stressful, and the LAST thing lesbians needed was to be attacked AND misrepresented by a member of our own "community". 
Thanks, Anna
We have yet to hear back from them. I encourage Lesbians (and Gay men) to write to Gay Star News about their Homophobic content. If Gay Star News, like Mary Beard believe Homosexuality doesnt exist, then they shouldnt be calling themselves "gay" star news. Write to them here:


Sunday, July 30, 2017

Less than Classy Classicist Mary Beard believes in Homer but not Homosexuals!

Story about Mary was well to tell
She seemed to scheme for a dream to sell...

In the ongoing work Mrs Dirt, myself and now-other fed up Lesbians are doing to unSTRAIGHTen Lesbian from the historical/present clutches of STRAIGHTBIANS/RadFems/Feminists, the amount of anger/hatred/dismissiveness and outright Homophobia we have/are receiving is staggering. One of the most recent attacks on Lesbian came in what at first seemed a VERY unlikely place-teacher/writer Mary Beard by way of her Twitter account. I say unlikely because what I knew of Mary Beard had to do with her, some years back being viciously (with misogyny aforethought/aforeafter!) attacked on Twitter/social media over her age/looks. And that having been around the time (2013) I had just started using Twitter myself, I didnt read beyond headline tweets/headlines themselves. And given how terribly Mary B. was treated, I didnt think I had to.

But in light of some recent ugly personal exchanges, I took the time to find out EXACTLY why Mary B. was so hatefully attacked, not the classical song and dance Mary B. fiddled to her audience:
To be sure, ‘misogyny’ is one way of describing of what’s going on. (If you go on a television discussion programme and then receive a load of tweets comparing your genitalia to a variety of unpleasantly rotting vegetables, it’s hard to find a more apt word.) But if we want to understand – and do something about – the fact that women, even when they are not silenced, still have to pay a very high price for being heard, we have to recognise that it is a bit more complicated and that there’s a long back-story.
Yes indeed, there is a long back story, but it isnt to found in classical Greece or Rome, it occurred when Miss Mary was on the British TV show Question Time 2013.  On the program Miss Mary had THIS... say regarding a specific British town whose resources have been drained do to mass eastern European immigration. A WOMAN (Rachel-I couldn't just sit there while she said there were no problems-Bull) from the town (Boston) who has seen/experienced first hand the many issues this overflow of immigrants has caused, despite not having a classical education or advanced academic degrees, bravely faced off with the flat dry fixed study Miss Mary raved about/from:

So as it turns out the angry attacks leveled at Mary Beard had less to do with something Odysseus and much more to do with something odious! Sexist/misogynistic comments obviously arent okay, but the emotions/feelings behind those remarks came from the downtrodden hearts of the working class toward someone (in this case Mary Beard) willfully representing the trite elite! Someone who instead of listening to the concerns of real living and breathing town folk, chose instead to make herself (in Het female fashion) a public victim/martyr, except the only steaks the town folk smelt were those sizzling on Mary's plate. 

I say all this to lend clarity by removing the sordid shit stains Miss Mary purposely smeared blotting out our view and to show a pattern of behaviour both of her as a Het female and as an individual.

Earlier this week an online friend/Lesbian compatriot who had been reading various things on an inspiration of hers-Jane Ellen Harrison, had asked a question to Mary Beard on Twitter (who had written one the books our Lesbian compat had been reading) regarding this passage and Jane Ellen Harrison's sexual orientation:
This passage makes clear Mary Beard's flippant Het privileged "own construction" of JEH's sexuality by dismissively likening JEH and other Dykes in her day (and us now) to simply jumping on the latest sex theories bandwagon. In this case Richard von Krafft-Ebing's early theory of inversion, later developed and popularized by Havelock Ellis (were "sexual inversion" actually an influence on JEH it would likely to have been via Ellis and not Krafft-Ebing). What is particularly insulting about this passage regarding inversion is, Mary Beard flatly suggests that had theories of Homosexuality not been made, then the relationships between Lesbians would not have been "prompted" to be LESBIAN (sexual) relationships! Basically, Beard did not/does not want to use historical evidences that would suggest JEH is guilty of being a Dyke. Mary Beard instead chose in her bio on JEH to "transcend" ignore the most core aspect of JEH-her brain. 

Moving on to the Twitter shit storm instigated by the Homosexual denier/Homophobe Mary Beard, using thousands of her Het followers against a few lone Lesbians. There were a good many Homophobic comments from Miss Mary's followers, but I'm not writing about her friends/followers so for the purpose of brevity/clarity (remember that pattern of behaviour I spoke of) I'm focusing on Miss Mary and her anti-Lesbian remarks.

In this screencap you will see the first exchange between our Lesbian compat and Miss Mary:

Miss Mary wrote it was crass to apply homosexuality to JEH, Hekate questions Miss Mary on if there is no judgement on being a Lesbian and there is sufficient evidence to suggest JEH was, why in the hell is it crass to call a Dyke a Dyke??? Moving on...
Miss Mary fully functioning in Het female form tries fruitlessly to toss in a straw wrench by suggesting she just might not be Heterosexual. (In my best faggy impersonation-Oh Mary!) Next!
Miss Mary who has written much about how Women/Women's voices are dismissed by Men, has no qualms whatsoever (with Het privilege securely in hand) about dismissing Lesbian voices/experiences/lives.

Shortly thereafter Mrs Dirt could hold her Lesbian tongue no longer:
After being snowballed by Hetsplaining tom(or is it tam?)foolery, Mrs Dirt wasting her time (hours later) and effort trying to explain Hekate's/hers/mine and Lesbians past/present and future, Lesbian position, watched as her explanations fell on Het ears, did the adult thing and extricated herself by blocking Miss Mary. Clearly Miss Mary was peeved (no fun in poking Lesbians with a stick if they go home):
Dismissing Lesbian to that of just another concept 19th century men came up with, calling Lesbian biology "silly" and unloosing at worst/watching with popcorn in hand at best as her followers who FAR outnumber Dykes, to berate/Hetsplain Lesbian to LESBIANS isnt a "polite disagreement" and there was no "hope for interaction" under such Homophobic conditions!

Mary still couldnt let things go....hmmm:
Bear in mind she was asking a shit ton of Mary, Mary 'Why ya buggin'?

Interestingly one of Miss Mary's followers more or less calls her out:
 OH, its not Lezzies and Fags Miss Mary has a problem with, its our BIOLOGY! Gotcha!😉 And Miss Mary, the B stands for BEHAVIOUR, not to be confused (as you clearly are) with BIOLOGY! Let me break it down though so hopefully even a Het brained female can get it, BISEXUALS ARE HETEROSEXUALS. Maybe Miss Mary had her hand on a girl's leg once or she kissed a girl and she liked it, but whatever she did/didnt do/dreamed of doing has ZERO to do with having been born with a Homosexual brain. At this point a flustered Miss Mary admits she doesnt think Homosexuals exist beyond some fucked up behaviour:
Mary Beard believes in Homer but not Homosexuals! To every single Gay or Lesbian reading this, Mary Beard's above statement should send pause through every single thing she's written and/or taught. By declaring nature unnatural, Mary Beard isnt simply someone who has studied ancient times, she is someone still actively living there. (And as an aside, Miss Mary utilized a common Het female ploy by calling herself old which suggests her age was negatively brought up when not a single Lesbian brought age into it. All Lesbians involved are either middle aged or older-nice try Mary!)

During her QT debacle Miss Mary said:
Miss Mary, decency whether online or off starts at home. I leave you with more words from Miss Mary:
 Ironically the well-meaning solution often recommended when women are on the receiving end of this stuff turns out to bring about the very result the abusers want: namely, their silence. ‘Don’t call the abusers out. Don’t give them any attention; that’s what they want. Just keep mum,’ you’re told, which amounts to leaving the bullies in unchallenged occupation of the playground.
Consider yourself challenged (pun intended) then Miss Mary.


Sunday, July 23, 2017

Het Women's Hatred of Lesbians or How Radical Feminism Held the Door for the Transgender Movement

I'm sharing this recent comment left on Mrs Dirt's blog post Everyday Lesbophobia and How It Harms Lesbians Every Day, that articulates harsh inner turmoil Lesbians-young and old feel/deal with, in our vast unavoidable experiences with STRAIGHTBIANS/Straight females.
And it is precisely the conclusion drawn (the ONLY conclusion that can be drawn) that has lead myself and a growing number of Lesbians to conclude If you are not Us (Lesbians) then you are against Us!

When I first began blogging nearly 10 years ago now, writing about the many problematics with Transgender/transition I was quickly taken up (up NOT in) by the RadFems. And for a brief moment (an eye blink) I felt hopeful, like there were other females questioning/writing and working to halt/change the deadly Heterosexually driven homophobic solution to all things deemed queer/sexually deviant. I say hopeful because since the mid 1990s I personally witnessed a tide of transition drown core numbers of Lesbians, much in the way AIDS swallowed Gay men in the 80's.

Only this disease wasnt spread by love/lust or bad blood, (although both AIDS and Transgender share the same foundation-Homophobia) instead the Lesbian plague was/is supported/spread because of the minority status of Lesbians/Heterocentrism/narcissistic selfishness of privileged (het) Women, who for varying reasons CHOOSE to call/define themselves as Lesbian! A deadly amalgam indeed!

One can only witness the step by step process of
  • (het) Women hunting in Lesbian communities
  • (het) Women preying on vulnerable Dykes
  • Dykes with full hearts believing they met Miss Right (rather than Miss Right Now!)
  • Dykes then changing their names and pronouns to match ones more comfortable (less Lesbian) for Miss Right Now
  • (het) Women using Heterocentric tropes to convince Lesbians how much like men they REALLY are
  • (het) Women supporting Dykes through medical transition drug changes/surgeries with glee
  • (het) Women going back to men when all was said and done
I'm not speaking of merely Dykes on a computer screen, but known flesh and blood Lesbians! Many of whom because they transitioned decades ago are now dead or ill from transition drugs/surgeries.

So to find (what I thought) were other females fighting the good fight, I was hopeful together we could really bring these issues to the forefront of the Lesbian community/Lesbian leaders (since many of these Women claimed to be Lesbians themselves or Lesbian allies) and once again common sense would be put in its rightful place.

What I found instead was a collection of sterile/ineffective/infertile circular verbiage that went 'round and 'round like a not-so-merry merry-go-round, accompanied by a butt load of Women nearly breaking their own arms to pat themselves on their proverbial backs! At first it seemed as though they werent hearing the harrowing words/stories I was telling. I distinctly remember being reminded of stories I had read where a Jew would escaped a death camp and make their way to a nearby village warning other Jews that down the road a few miles Germans are mass exterminating Jews, only to be met with pure disbelief/uninterest.

What I soon realized was the disinterest didnt stem from disbelief, but disinterest since those being slowly murdered werent the RadFems who called themselves lesbian, but Lesbians themselves-who were undesired/unneeded. Therefore it wasnt exactly a shocker to realize I was the ONLY Lesbian specifically writing about Lesbians transitioning and the circumstances that made Lesbian transition ripe. RadFems then/now were very much like 70's RadFems, having fun playing at a Homophobic Hetsplained IDEA of Lesbian (hairy armpits/legs, Paul Bunyan outfit, Moe Howard hairdoo with a HEAVY focus on Men...Men men men-patriarchy patriarchy patriarchy-MRA MRA MRA)!

And very much like the Lesbian experience with RadFems/Feminists 40 years ago, if a Lesbian dared to suggest a course or plan of action for combating Men/Patriarchy/MRAs, were soon dismissed and put on RadFem/Feminist shit lists. If a Lesbian dared to even try to inject some Lesbian reality into RadFem/Feminists warped watered down notion of Dyke, we were/are told we were/are acting like men! For me personally, putting Lesbians first, I knew I would fall out of favour quickly with the RadFem/Feminists, whom I equally quickly realized were/are as Radical as they were/are Feminist, which is to say they were/are neither.

RadFems/Feminists past (RadFem/Feminists today ignore these facts) jumped on the John Money-brains-have-no-sex bandwagon because they passively were handed an explanation-gender-(FROM MEN) on why men run the world and not them-SOCIALIZATION not Biology! They didnt care this info came from known MALE pedophiles whose "studies" consisted of boy twins being forced to act out Heterosexual male/female sex roles and pedophiles masturbating infants to see how long it took them to get an erection! Studies that as quick as they were published were soon found to have been fudged by said pedophiles. RadFems/Feminists then, like now didnt give a flying fuck, they heard what they wanted to hear and damn anyone/everyone saying anything different!

The foolish thinking was if sex (biology) could be removed from discourse and replaced with gender (socialization) then the unfair advantages males have utilized over females would level out and eventually Women would be equal with Men. Feminist leaders like Bella Abzug even took this thinking to the larger stage of  UN conference/s:
"The concept of gender is embedded in contemporary social, political and legal discourse. ….The meaning of the word gender has evolved as differentiated from the word sex to express the reality that women’s and men’s roles and status are socially constructed and subject to change…The current attempt by several Member States to expunge the word gender from the Platform for Action and to replace it with the word sex is an insulting and demeaning attempt to reverse the gains made by women, to intimidate us, and to block further progress. We urge the small number of male and female delegates seeking to side-track and sabotage the empowerment of women to cease this diversionary tactic. They will not succeed. They will only waste precious time. We will not go back to subordinate inferior roles."
Twenty GENDER-NOT-SEX years later and grown men are using the Ladies, a Man is woMAN of the year, business's are being sued for using CORRECT pronoun usage and Female biology/biological functions are up for grabs or forbidden to use altogether. The ever growing patronage surrounding Transgender medically/socially/legally proliferated beyond the hallways of John Hopkins and the like because Radical Feminist/Feminist simultaneously Green lighted Gender while road blocking Sex.
Its horrifically obvious Radical Feminists/Feminists were/are as versed in the rules of Chess, in as much as Hitler was the game Risk. Perhap Hitlerian too, Radical Feminist/Feminist's dont care about the fallout, dont care about the (particularly Lesbian) victims in their wake and dont care the war has been long lost.
  • Gender didnt open doors for Women, men did (mannered ones still do so today).
  • Gender didnt level any playing field, unless you count the Girls sports fields now dominated by male players.
  • Gender didnt change who has babies and who is still the primary caretakers of children.
  • Gender didnt change male's unabated lusts. Although technologies (created/lead mostly by males) made temporary satiating those lusts easier.
  • Gender didnt make Women any more powerful. Although technologies have highlighted globally how collectively impuissant Het Women are. 
  • Gender didnt stop males from raping/abusing animals/children/adults/the earth.
  • Gender hasnt in fact provided Het Women with anything in the form of a positive, past or present.
Forty plus years of RadFems/Feminists (Het Women) using Gender to change the world to their mercurial whims and nada. Less than ten years of Het Males using Gender and they're woMen of the year! Thats not hyperbole, thats biology!

A few days ago this was said about me by two RadFem/Feminists:
If we set aside their narrow Hetsplaining of Dyke, coupled with their obvious Homophobia, by their own heterocentric logic, their invalidation of me as female (eschewing all (Het) female/feminine tropes equals not female) they validate any male who does likewise (expunge all male/masculine tropes equals woMAN). This example, in a nutshell, assisted in how Radical Feminism/Feminism gentlemanly held the door open for Trans Males to clumsily Kitten Heel over the corpses (living and dead) of Lesbians and Gays, and continue doing so today.

Radical Feminism's/Feminism's entire warped anti-biology tenet says at once that Lesbian is behavioural/choice (behaviour that involves a sexual relationship between two females) and that biological males can in fact be women since biology is irrelevant to brain non sexed plasticity. When males took the Gender ball from them and ran for a touchdown, RadFems/Feminists screamed from their lung tops TRANS WOMEN ARE NOT WOMEN. So RadFems/Feminists had to change their tune of anti essentialism/anti-biology to include the lived experience of woman in flimsy effort to stop trans males from using RadFems/Feminists ideas to beat them at their own game, which by the way they have. And by calling trans males even some part of woman legitimated that these men were in fact to some extent-woMEN. This lead some RadFems/Feminists to use MTT-male-to-trans in a too late in the game last ditch effort to stop Trans males from scoring the ultimate touchdown. Obviously by assigning (in social media only) trans males to a nebulous gender spectrum, trans males could still retain their bought and paid for womanness because MTT rants from passive/aggressive Het Women fell on deaf ears.

There are a shit ton more of Het Women than there are Lesbians, and it is they who primarily give birth to the world of humans, not us. It is THEY who have the power (were they able to think/process beyond their Heterosexually driven brains/bodies) to make the future a better place for people, animals and earth. Five thousand plus years of wash/rinse/repeat suggests to me they cannot function beyond their Heterosexuality and therefore are not only NOT a friend/ally of Lesbians, they arent to anyone, including themselves.

I dont say all this to make Lesbians feel hopeless. I say this because like the commenter quoted at the beginning of this post, despite the growing number of Lesbians who have realised IF YOU ARE NOT US, YOU ARE AGAINST US is true, there are still far too many Lesbians asleep at the wheel. Lesbians present and future deserve the benefits from knowing/understanding being female alone isnt enough to bond over with Het females and that it is biologically IMPOSSIBLE for them (het Females) to do so.



Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Lesbians: SEEING the Forest because we are Not Trees

While using some examples from a few recent Twitter hoo-hahs, this post is by no means limited to these examples, they merely highlight issues Lesbians have been dealing with whenever we point out the obvious to (het) Women/Feminists for centuries.

The case in point occurred over several days when responding to feminist's talk blather about "male violence". Clearly as Lesbians we are all too aware that much of the violence perpetuated on the world/its inhabitants has been (het) male driven and (het) female supported (in varying ways). Lesbians pointing out the latter are ALWAYS met by (het) Women (quite literally) hysterics by conversations end.

I do not limit these observations/experiences simply to the internet, but to MANY (as I'm getting long in the tooth by the second!) decades of personal LESBIAN experience plus the personal lifetime experiences of fellow Lesbians and centuries of Lesbians past. And I do not doubt the experiences of Lesbians past with (het) Women, because I too have the same experiences with them every single day of my life for as long as I have had memory. But lets say for the sake of argument I did not, I would only have to open my eyes in the morning, or open a book or look out my window or step out my door to see for myself how Heterosexuals of both sexes have impacted the world via action/passivity. What is also blatant is which Hetero sex has predominantly used action and which passivity.

Digressing back to the Twitter incidents I first mentioned, when someone who had followed me made a slew of statements about "male violence" I made a few comments back about regarding (het) Women's role in bearing those males and raising them. This didnt go over too well with the (het) Woman in question and as has been the ongoing Lesbian experience when trying to have an honest conversation about male violence/birth control etc, like the steps of grief, there is a set of steps that (het) Women go through when Lesbians do not agree with their every word/challenge their Heterocentric thought processes:

Step 1) They either think you (meaning Lesbians) are male or they will insultingly pretend to think you're male. This Tweet was in reference to me:
Step 2) Then when pointed out we (in this case me) is a Lesbian, comes the all purpose blame-the-Dyke/s-excuse/s:
Step 3) Even after knowing we are Lesbians, make insulting paper thin comparisons to us (Lesbians) with men:

Step 4) Claim Lesbian/s are attacking them/see insults where none exist:
Step 5) When their behaviour reaches the bizarre, their Homophobic responses reach extremes and their Lezbophobia is called out, they Block/run for the hills:
Step 6) Incite other (het) Women to attack the mean Lesbian/s which then runs a similar course and...
around we go!
And these are (het) Women whom on the surface claim to be Lesbian allies, they, like most (het) Women arent even allies to themselves, but most certainly they are NOT Lesbian allies!

Pointing out differences in brain functions between Lesbians and (het) Women isnt hate, it is obviously important for LESBIANS (Lesbian even when highly flustered/frustrated and angry still maintain linear thinking/conversing) to know in order to help Lesbians better traverse (het) Women in our/their lives.

I suspect the hysterics/all loss of reason (het) Women go into when confronted with Lesbians occurs because, unlike the males in their lives who (and we Lesbians have ALL heard a male in our lives say when arguing a point with a (het) female friend/relative-"just let it go, its not worth it") will just let the point go to regain peace/not have to listen to grousing. Lesbians not being trained in (het) Women like young males are by older males, we Lesbians will continue to make our point and in sticking by our guns, most (het) Women will become hysterical. This behaviour in and of itself illustrates some of the biological differences between Lesbians and (het) Women.

Were it merely arguing over what tastes better, Coke or Pepsi with (het) Women, maybe Lesbians could simply let it go. But where Lesbian lives are at stake, Lesbian biology, Lesbian accuracy? Then NO, we will not let it go! We will fight to the proverbial death if it means providing accurate information that can benefit other Lesbians! And Lesbians knowing whom they can and cannot trust can be a matter of LIFE or DEATH!

The biological realities of Heterosexual Males and Females is all around us, it is infantile to think (Het) Males just bulldozed their way throughout time (patriarchy) and (het) Women had no say in the making of that world whatsoever. (het) Women created and continue to create humans everyday, if they really did fear/hate the (het) male population/male violence as much as they claim, then they could have LONG ago stopped the male population from existing in large numbers. Males do not bear children, but using their male biology, they have in the course of a few decades halted the births of millions of females being born. But again, obviously (het) Women played a passive role in that.

Dykes on the other hand wouldnt be alive today if our brains processed in the same way as (het) female brains function, (het) female passivity would actively get us killed or silenced. Lesbians may not be male, but we are action oriented, even the shyest among us. Lesbians do not rebel against patriarchy. Lesbians arent Lesbians because we are brave. Lesbians do not stand up to men.We stand separate from EVERYBODY. That does not mean we are alone, but it does mean we are a unique biological entity. Lesbians SEE the forests, because none of us are trees.

See Mrs Dirt's piece on the subject as well: The Sadly Predictable Stages of Hetsplaining



Tuesday, July 11, 2017

With Lesbians Like Sue Perkins Who Needs Enemies?!

Funny gal Sue Perkins did a recent interview touching on her coming out experience. Sue P. actually wrote/performed a six episode comedy series (Heading Out) based loosely on her own difficult coming out experience. Given that Sue Perkins is about as smart as she is funny, as a Lesbian, its sad to see Sue P. ignorant or careless about Homosexuality, hers and in and of itself.

Instead she reduces sexual orientation down to "fluidity" (Really Sue??). Did you fret for 28 years over fluidity??? Have Homosexual youths since the beginning of Humans committed suicide over fluidity??? Are Homosexuals past/present and future routinely attacked/murdered over fluidity? Are Homosexual children today being labeled by parents/varying authorities as Transgender because of fluidity?? Are self hating (not unlike yourself) Homosexual adults transitioning so they can fit in over fluidity???

More insulting, Sue P. goes further by stating she is "hugely cheered by the fact my goddaughter has friends at school who are pansexual". Pansexual isnt a sign of progress Sue; its a sign of child sexual abuse, a sign of neglect, a sign of acute attention seeking and various other emotional issues, but it certainly isnt a sign of progress, let alone a fucking sign of progress for Homosexuals!

And in fact as a public Homosexual (you Sue!) linking Homosexuality with (in the minds and hearts of the general public and Psychiatry alike) debauchery aka Pansexuality, you in one fell swoop reinforced the long held notions/feelings that not only is Homosexuality a choice, BUT that Homosexuality is the sick fucking perversion Heterosexuals always and STILL believe it/us to be!

Sue leaves the topic of Homo/sexuality with this ditty "I don’t know but it doesn’t matter. I always thought it was a spectrum and I have been furious and dumbfounded I had to make a binary choice". It seems what you're furious about Sue Perkins, is that you were/are unable to make a choice because choice isnt an option! But were it an option, I can only think you Sue Perkins, would err on the side of Heteros.

Lastly Sue says of coming out-"Why should people have to go through this painful stressful archaic ritual of going home to their parents and telling them they are having sex". Well Sue, if reducing Homosexuality/Lesbian to nothing more than what two Lesbians (or two Females of any sexual orientation) do in bed, then you have more fucking problems than your own self hatred!

Also read Mrs Dirt's “Sexuality is Fluid”: The Great Big Hoax as a companion piece to this post.


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